Even if you’re in a successful career or a successful relationship, sometimes your biggest goals can elude you. The first question to ask yourself is, “Are you really interested in achieving that goal? Or are you committed?” Being interested and being committed are two very different things. You can read more about this in the article, Interested –versus- Committed in the January issue of the BOLD Bulletin here.

Alright, so you ARE committed to achieving success. Keeping a positive focus is one of the most simple and fastest ways you can improve your chances. Yea, yea, I know. I’m not talking about kidding yourself or trying to trick yourself. To stay more positive, and without getting into the mindfulness, observe-the-observer discussion (both practices of which, btw, I am a strong proponent) my first suggestion is for you to quit using one of the most negative words there is – B-U-T. Get “BUT” out of your vocabulary – forever.

Now, you say, “But, I……” See! “Yea, but they didn’t – wouldn’t – shouldn’t have ….” There you go again. Just stop it! Right here - Right now. There’s nothing positive in the word ‘but’. Instead, try this: You’ve got a dream, a goal. You’re committed to achieving it – not just interested. You’ve considered options and you have a plan of action. Do your visioning – See yourself in the present, already having achieved your goal, enjoying the rewards, accolades, fruits of your efforts. Feel the emotion, the satisfaction; be there in your mind.

Now, whatever you think and say from this point forward must be centered on “and”, regardless of the communication. For example:

The last step didn’t work as well as I hoped and I’m doing this next.
They said they would take care of it and I’m going to take over now.

Compare those statements to:

The last step didn’t work as well as I had hoped but I’m doing this next.
They said they would take care of it but I'm going to take over now.

Are they saying the same things? Factually, yes. Yet, they are different, aren’t they. The communicator of the ‘and’ statements retain power. The communicator of the ‘but’ statements gives up power and takes on the air of victim. Replace your “buts” with “and” and you won’t give up your power.

Stay in charge. Be BOLD, Be Positive.

Are you just interested ...or are you committed to achieving success? Be BOLD, Be Committed and take a holistic approach to planning your success. The Business Bootcamp by Bold Vision Consulting. February 7. Visit our website for more information on the BOLD Business Bootcamp or to find the registration form. Feel free to call 207-221-3492 with any questions.

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